Thanks, @Korrigan I’ll tell him about it and send him the link.
As for the snare, I’m probably out of luck, he loves it. I don’t know about the tightness. It’s something that he has been developing over 30 years through many different drums, drum heads, tunings, sticks. Trying to get that perfect ‘CRACK!’ by hitting the rim and the center at the same time.
He’s actually really talented and has continued to play for his whole life. The loudness thing is just part of what he loves about playing. He loves the sound when he’s being aggressive and I think he likes the catharsis of being exhausted when he’s done. He can play quieter but I don’t want to ask him to. When I finish the class and we get together to play I want him to go full on. I want to be part of that crazy.