A couple of weeks ago I was talking with my wife and mentioned casually that I wish I had a drummer to practice with.
This afternoon, she mentioned she wanted to learn to play the drums.
Yes!
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Congrats!
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That’s great! Lucky you! If your girl is anything like mine, more time with her doing things you enjoy doesn’t have a price tag.
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My girl says she wants to do that, too. Then she can be in charge and give me direction in yet another aspect of my life.
. If she does, I’d happily follow her lead. Not only is she killer smart and truly funny, she’s also able to see through me and show me when I’m being self-defeating.
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Now, do you get acoustic loud AF drums, or go electronic and share the PA? 
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She’s a keeper!
I wish I could get my wife back interested in music. She’s a far better keyboardist than I am - her teacher urged her to go pro in fact. Also a great singer, and has been a drummer. And she’s utterly not interested, she only did it because it’s what kids do here growing up, and as soon as she was free, no interest 
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Your wife is cool indeed
(Tamu in the clip is a wife and mother of two toddlers btw)
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That’s awesome
Look forward to hearing how you get on
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This is totally the situation with my wife, @howard . She completed music school when she was a kid but has no interest at all these days. The few times I’ve managed to play something with her she’s approached it with all the enthusiasm of a dog getting a bath. At one point she said she was going to learn the bass - hence the Hofner - but she complained the strings hurt her hands and gave up. Sigh.
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I think having a musical marriage would be just crazy cool.
To be creative together and have fun playing, etc.
Man, the thought of it is just spectacular.
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I got myself a tiny Roland td-1k and started learning with Drumeo. Is lots of fun. Highly recommended if not into full blown acoustic drums
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That’s awesome! Very jealous of how that worked out 
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My wife’s finally signed up for School of Rock classes with me. Not cause of me though, but cause another friend of ours who joined me in class playing keyboard, then took a couple of sessions off, is coming back for a session on The Beatles. But I’ll take it either way. I’m worried our practice schedules will be off (I think I will practice more than her, but I’m less naturally gifted) but we’ll see how that tension resolves itself. The risk/reward ratio seems worth it. Will have an answer by the end of January (the next show date).
Oh - and we got an electronic drum kit and share a PA at home. But she plays acoustic at the school. Though she scares herself with how loud they are…
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Sounds fantastic! Have fun together.
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Very cool indeed!
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My partner was in a couple of bands prior to our relationship but brought me into the mix. We’re in a band together now, me self-taught and Josh-taught 
. I’ve been playing the bass for 3 1/2 years. No previous music experience other than chorus in high school and a short unimpressive year of trying out the guitar. Picking up the bass was like putting on my most comfortable clothing—the fit was right and it felt natural. I have to admit, sharing an interest in music with my partner as well as being in a band together is crazy cool! So blessed to have this opportunity together. Who would’ve thought I’d be in a band in my 50’s with no prior experience? Not me! So much joy and accomplishment to share. I highly recommend it.
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It’s awesome! When I decided to play drums I purchased 10 Best Electronic Drum Sets (Winter 2023) – Reviews & Buying Guide Alesis (I attach the link), you can find it on Amazon. I was very pleased with tactile aspects, I love how each pad can be adjusted for sensitivity, this brought Hi-Hats and Hi-Hat pedal into actual useful and feeling as it should.
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GAS isn’t limited to stringed instruments. We have that Alesis electronic drum kit, but now the wife is feeling like a real snare drum is necessary to practice some particular techniques. So we went shopping and while the salesman was demo’ing all the snares in the room, my wife took a step back and I knew she was just trying to figure out which was her favorite color…Turns out it’s pretty easy to disconnect the e-snare and replace it with a real snare…
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