Alllllllllllrighty then, folks.
I’d love to put this eternal question out to all of y’all.
How do you (or don’t you) balance a life, maybe a family, probably a job, other things that have to get done… with the bass?
I’ve been at every stage of this, and I don’t think I’ve ever had a balance.
Between college… balancing college jazz-bass-major demands with falling in love (college was when I quite video games - something had to give!) - my bass teacher told me that “maybe music’s not for you…” Meanwhile trying to negotiate time boundaries with my (now wife) girlfriend about needing to practice/etc…
Or the professional world post-college when it was all music and teaching and gigging and hustling for bands all the time + getting married?
Or the touring life (worst balance of it all), just blowing out of town for weeks at a time, and then coming back and still needing to be on point with band stuff but also having new babies on board…
And now the post-touring life, where family is - finally - coming first, but now bass has a hard time finding a place.
It’s a weird one.
I think I finally got the priorities right, but I’m also playing less music than I ever have in my life.
I’d love to hear how you all do it, if it’s a concern, if it’s easy, if it’s impossible - whatever. I have a suspicion that life - family, work, obligations, that damn house repair - are the reasons folks stop playing or drift away from the instrument.
It certainly is in my case.
I guess, I’m not so much looking for tips on how to balance things… that usually ends up as an abstract, top-down, idealistic sort of “schedule things out, set aside time, plan for your goals…” type of thing.
I’m more interested in the dirty reality of it, after you made all the schedules and planned everything, and life keeps happening, and you have to deal with all the curve balls and wear and tear on resolve, etc.
Am I making sense?
Is this a thing for other people too?
Share them stories, and lemme know (and each other know) that we’re not alone in the insanity, and the ever-diminishing amount of practice time.
Or let me know how easy it actually is, and to get my act together!