When I play with others my only objections is if a songs lyrics violate my conscience (and I’m a pretty open dude)
Playing with others excuses and pushback shouldn’t be given before a try, I"'m not sure but let’s try it"
If someone gives me a chance to learn I jump on it because I’m only as good as my experiences + my practice time.
Especially if something is hard.
Aren’t we as bassists the ones who go “booooom”? 
I met a communications coach once who suggested this:
Try to take what people do and say at face value, i.e. don’t interpret, describe it. You wrote:
He probably didn’t think that. He may have thought something you could ask him about. I mean, you mention a video. Well, I tried to implement some VBA in Excel today, and in the videos… it works. 
He really said that? In my opinion one should do exactly the opposite, at least for the “saying” part! Most people never say what the really think … or are not able to articulate it…
But I strongly agree with looking closely at how people act.
I think a great argument for learning music theory at an older age is it would be a great way to stave off dementia. Seriously, though, the brain is like the muscles–use it or lose it–so the older I get, the more I seek out mental stimulation and learning. Perhaps I’ll be able to avoid the whole old dog, new tricks thing.
Whatever blows yer goat.
People in my experience say what they mean, people often take it literally and don’t listen to what they are communicating.
Of course I have lived on the US South, where “bless your heart” can be a serious insult depending on the context.
Man, my tongue is bleeding!
I think the idea was that people often have their own viewpoint colour what they hear others say. By stopping at what you literally hear, you can stop to think before you have a knee-jerk reaction.
Regarding the jam session, I thought that wrxloaf may have over-interpreted what he saw/heard.
People needs to be able to navigate the social interactions with others. That’s rule number one. It’s a major part of being a grownup. Saying whatever that comes to mind may sounds like an awesome idea but it’s not acceptable anywhere. Good manners are not something you show off to others but they are displays of respects you have to others.
100% This! 
So much this!
Millennials and GenZ think GenX are Boomers, and can’t fathom some of us have parents who are actually boomers, who are in their 80s like most boomers! I do think “boomer” and "GenX’ has fallen out of the vocab of Gen Z and Alpha, I am around college age students and I don’t think they care as much about defining generations. I think they just consider everyone over 30 as like “old”.
FYI, “Baby Boomers,” or people born between 1946 and 1964, are currently between 60 and 78 years old, not “in their 80s.”
The term Baby Boomer refers to children born during the post-World War II birth rate spike.
I’m Gen X with Boomer parents. I’ve also got a 26 yr old and a 28 yr old. The 26 year old loves calling me a Boomer. She doesn’t actually mean that I was born between 1946 and 1964. For the younger generations, its just a synonym for old.
Ok boomer
J/k I’m 44
I think these kids moved on from boomer to bruh.
My boys 6&11 call me bruh all the time and I’m like, “dude, I made you”
I’m 47 (yeah the 28 year old was a big oopsy when I was 19), wait until your boys grow up and figure out they can drink and curse with you. It’s a whole different dynamic and I love it.
Hahaha yea they test their limits. My 6 yr old, the other day we are driving by a graveyard, "dad why does that gravestone say FU*K? he said the word out loud my other kid and I were sitting there trying not to laugh like bevis and butthead in sex Ed.
I thought ok he misread something, he knows better and he isn’t laughing. “Spell it” I said. Hoping to put the incident to bed as a misunderstanding F-U-C-*. There were no stars in real life.
We spent the trip back looking for the gravestone but couldn’t find it. My youngest is photographic memory smart in noticing all the details of life but I still don’t believe that spelling is there…
Sorry boomer! I just meant the term colloquially like how a lot of older folks still seem to refer even to college aged kids sometimes as “millennials”. GenX, GenZ, Gen Alpha just don’t have the staying power as boomer and millennial for some reason. Really did not mean to offend.
No offense taken in the least. I realize people use terms “loosely,” especially when a term is irrelevant to those individuals.
Just clarifying what the actual definition of the term is, for whatever that’s worth.