Hi @2ideas!
I know what you mean, a loud amp or setup makes you hear all those small things much better. On my practice amp, I play so quietly that the neighbours don’t get bothered… which is far too quiet to hear resonating strings or check my muting.
Maybe you can try to play more with headphones or in ears to check for that. And please watch your stage volume to avoid hearing damage 
Cheers,
Antonio
PS: have a look at the threads “Introduce yourself” and “Show us your basses”